Five Bad Habits While Communicating
These bad habits can prevent you from effective communication with your partner.
COMMUNICATION
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Dear Couples,
Let's dive into something that affects every relationship, big or small: communication. It's the cornerstone of connection, the glue that holds us together. However, if we're not careful, we can easily fall into some bad habits that hinder the flow of understanding. So, let's talk about five common communication missteps and how we can turn them around.
🛠️ Practical Tips
Disengaging: The Silent Disconnect
Picture this: You're in the middle of a conversation, but your mind is somewhere else entirely. We've all been there, right? Disengaging is like having a separate conversation in our heads. It's not that we don't care, but sometimes life's distractions take over.🛠️⭐️ Practical Tip: Let's practice being more curious and seeking to understand our partner. When you feel your thoughts drifting, take a deep breath and consciously refocus on what your partner is saying - even asking a clarifying question. Trust me, the effort is worth it.
Dismissive: Giving Every Emotion a Voice
We all experience moments of vulnerability, and it's crucial to create a safe space for our partners to express themselves, even when those feelings are negative. Being dismissive can inadvertently shut down your partner's willingness to share their true emotions⭐️ Practical Tip: Remember, it's okay for your partner to feel upset or frustrated. Instead of trying to "fix" their feelings, let them know you're there to listen and support them. Sometimes, that's all they need.
Giving Advice: Letting Empathy Lead the Way
It's human nature to want to help, to offer solutions when someone we love is facing a challenge. But sometimes, what our partner really needs is a listening ear and a comforting presence. Focusing solely on solutions can make them feel unheard.⭐️ Practical Tip: Before jumping in with advice, try saying, "I'm here for you, and I'm listening." It might surprise you how much this simple shift can strengthen your connection.
Going off on a Tangent: It's Not About Us
We all have our stories, experiences, and perspectives. But remember, when your partner opens up, it's their moment. Going off on a tangent with our own agenda can divert the attention away from what truly matters to them.
Acknowledge your partner's feelings and experiences before sharing your own. It shows that you value their perspective and are invested in their emotions.
Interrupting: Letting Them Finish Their Story
We've all been excited to share our thoughts, but interrupting can unintentionally signal that what we have to say is more important. It's vital to let your partner have their say and finish their story.
Practice active listening. When your partner is speaking, focus on their words, and resist the urge to interject. You'll be amazed at how this simple act can foster a deeper connection.
In times of communication missteps, remember, we're all a work in progress. Seek forgiveness when you know you've used one of the bad habits. Let's strive to be better listeners, better partners. And, if you ever find yourselves struggling, know that seeking guidance is a sign of strength, not weakness.
As you navigate this beautiful journey of marriage together, remember that communication is the bridge that brings you closer. Build it strong, with love, empathy, and understanding.
Wishing you open hearts and many fruitful conversations,
-Tools for Marriage 🛠️