Conflict Scale - Rating the Depth of Your Disagreement
Use this scale to help you and your partner determine the importance of a topic to avoid unnecessary conflict.
CONFLICT
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Dear couples,
When we meet with couples for premarital counseling we find this is such a valuable tool for dealing with conflicts. Sometimes we think our partner feels as strongly as we do during a disagreement. This scale is a valuable tool for determining how important an issue is for each of you. Sometimes we assume our partner feels very strongly about a topic when really it's not that important to them.
Use this scale to measure where you and your spouse stand when a conflict heats up:
I’m not enthusiastic, but it’s no big deal to me.
I don’t see it the way you do, but I may be wrong.
I don’t agree, but I can live with it.
I don’t agree, but I’ll let you have your way.
I don’t agree and I cannot remain silent on this.
I do not approve and I need more time.
I strongly disapprove and cannot go along with it.
I will be so seriously upset I can’t predict my reaction.
No possible way: If you do, I quit!
Over my dead body!
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Conflict Scale Concept Courtesy SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts).
We want to give credit where credit is due. The insightful Conflict Scale concept discussed in this article was originally outlined by SYMBIS.